There is a sacred romance between each one of us and God. We women find ourselves wandering in endless and crazy paths longing for answers to our questions: First: Am I lovely? Second: Am I worth it? Third: Will I be ready? – As we grow in our very relationships with the people around us…these questions resides in the deepest recesses of our minds and at times we find ourselves getting the answers in the wrong places. In every step of our search, there is also an invisible line that connects us with our Father. He never let us go no matter what. Since creation, when He created Eve, it was a reflection of God’s beauty. Our being women is not simply a gift but something this God we believe is convinced…forever in love with each of us.
Our roles are not as simple as what we think. We all have a special place in this world. A place that God will not trade to anyone. As we go into the deep with our creator’s mind, we will find that reassuring hope that there is beauty all around us – that is a reflection of the beauty of our very being as women. When we find ourselves scared because we will be hurt of what others may think, or when we doubt the risks of making an important decision…or simply telling ourselves that we want to stay in this ‘calm ocean’ – we are actually disorienting ourselves from the very plan of God. Of course, God doesn’t want us to be mangled by defeats or suffering but there is grace and wisdom when He allows these to happen. He is strengthening us — that His grace may fill our very soul. To feel those uncertain emotions is the very essence and nature of our being women — women crowned in the beauty that is incomparable.
Why do you think we are having some self doubts with ourselves, or dreaming to be at peace soon or to simply be in still fields and beauty? Our very emotions and being are shaped by what has happened to us — be it before birth, during our childhood, teens or even in adulthood. It is a product of the many lies that were fed to us.Most of us in one way or the other has experienced being compared with our other siblings, that we we’re the least among. Some may have issues of abuse both physical, psychological, emotional…others may have been longing the attention that our parents never gave.
These past and circumstances has validly collapse our identity. It made us believe the lies of deception that the devil wants for us. Lucifer, in scriptures is tagged as the most beautiful — and because of man (particularly us, women) he failed and rebelled against God — it’s because He saw how God so much loved human beings and that the Eve in us is the most ‘beautiful’ as compared to Him.And He envied this love, as well as the beauty reflected in Eve, He is jealous of our very nature as women.
Now, here is a God who invites us to take His hand… A Father who promises healing in all areas of your life. Isn’t it a choice worth taking? Our healing will only come when we accept this invitation. When we reside and give our full trust to our maker. God waits on us, He stays with us out of love that can only sprung from someone so much in love as well. Do you feel good when someone offered to help us without a cost?Did it brought you to tears and make your heart skip a bit? Weren’t our burdens became lighter?
Yes we are swept by that ideal and here is God who waits on us. A God who will answer all our questions…and indeed He already did. When He allowed His son to die for us to give us eternal life. This God is unchangeable, unmoved – He wipes our tears, and carries us each time — all we need is recognize His presence…He calls on to each “I love you, I am with you and won’t let you go.” This God assures us that His creation is only complete with you — and that He wants you to know that you are the most beautiful, most gifted He has done…and that beauty is already within you — and is waiting to be unveiled…and God alone can.
Though we are weak, unfaithful or lack the confidence…Our God tells us that He is the only lover that can fill our souls. He is the only one who can answer the mysteries that you long to know…that He alone is enough! Whatever it takes, take His hand and allow Him to work in you. Allow this God to make you remember the beauty that you have forgotten. Allow Him to fill the emptiness, those longings of your heart.
Find time, listen to the sound of nature which is a whisper of His unending love for you. The smile from a friend or a helping hand from a stranger — it is God re-affirming His love and faithfully fixing His eyes on each one of us that He is there…continuously loving, accepting all that we are, all that we can.
Your flaw (all of it) is not an imperfection to Him, rather in His eyes it is an area for His grace to manifest that you will more and more glorify Him. God doesn’t see the flaws but He transforms it as a blessing–as gifts only given to His loved ones. “My grace is made perfect in your weakness.” 2 Cor. 12:9
You are all there is. You are unique, distinct, one and only – God calls on you only in your specific mission field/s — wherever you are, however you may be at this point. He calls you there. And you are a woman asked by God to respond with YESes after yeses…You are His conduit in this world. There is a battlefield God designed only for each of us…where we are the warrior princesses…gentle, magnificent, serene but graceful in the midst of chaos. You are essential. God says: “My daughter, you are no less than anything or anyone – you have the power within you to be my helper in all things. You are my ezer kenegdo and that is your irreplaceable role.” Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge, pages 31-33, 42
“When God creates Eve, He calls her an ezer kenegdo. “It is not good for the man to be alone, I shall make him [an ezer kenegdo]” (Gen. 2:18). Hebrew scholar Robert Alter, who has spent years translating the book of Genesis, says that this phrase is “notoriously difficult to translate.” The various attempts we have in English are “helper” or “companion” or the notorious “help meet.” Why are these translations so incredibly wimpy, boring, flat…disappointing? What is a help meet, anyway? What little girl dances through the house singing “One day I shall be a help meet?” Companion? A dog can be a companion. Helper? Sounds like Hamburger Helper. Alter is getting closer when he translates it “sustained beside him.” The word ezer is used only twenty other places in the entire Old Testament. And in every other instance the person being described is God Himself, when you need Him to come through for you desperately.
“Blessed are you, O Israel! Who is like you, a people saved by the Lord? He is your shield and helper and your glorious sword” (Deut. 33:26,29). “I lift up my eyes to the hills–where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:1-2). “May the Lord answer you when you are in distress; may the name of the God of Jacob protect you. May He send you help” (Ps 20:1-2). “We wait in hope for the Lord, He is our help and our shield” (Psalm 33:20). Most of the contexts are life and death, by the way, and God is your only hope. Your ezer. If He is not there beside you…you are dead. A better translation therefore of ezer would be “lifesaver.” Kenegdo means alongside, or opposite to, a counterpart. You see, the life of God calls us to is not a safe life. Ask Joseph, Abraham, Moses, Deborah, Esther–any of the friends of God from the Old Testament. Ask Mary or Lazarus; ask Peter, James, and John; ask Priscilla and Aquila–any of the friends of God in the New Testament. God calls us to a life involving frequent risks and many dangers. Why else would we need Him to be our ezer? You don’t need a lifesaver if your mission is to be a couch potato. You need an ezer when your life is in constant danger.
Picture the character of Arwen in the mythic motion-picture trilogy, The Lord of the Rings. Arwen is a princess, a beautiful and brave elf maiden. She comes into the story in the nick of time to rescue the little hobbit Frodo just as the poisoned wound moving toward his heart is about to claim him….It is she, not the warrior Aragorn, who rides with glory and speed [to take him to her father]. She is Frodo’s only hope. She is the one entrusted with his life and with him, the future of all Middle Earth. She is his ezer kenegdo. That longing in the heart of a woman to share life together as a great adventure–that comes straight from the heart of God, who also longs for this. He does not want to be an option in our lives. He does not want to be an appendage, a tag along. Neither does any woman. God is essential. He wants us to need Him–desperately.
Eve is essential. She has an irreplaceable role to play. And so you’ll see that women are endowed with fierce devotion, an ability to suffer great hardships, a vision to make the world a better place. A woman is not here merely to complete a man, and therefore a single woman is somehow missing her destiny…It is God who longs to be our ezer…“You are the image bearer of this God. This is why you long for these things too. There is a radiance hidden in your heart that the world desperately needs.”
May we own this irreplaceable role God has given us and ask Him to show us how we can be the ezer kenegdos He has called us to be today. And may we be deeply encouraged that God is our ezer, our only true hope and help.
I have come a long way and I have found my peace only in God. I stand firm in faith because of Him who has put His strength upon me. Nothing compares to this freedom, He gave.
Freedom from all the lies I too have believe…Now, I know I am more confident because of this God who love me so much. In all the twist and turns of my life, God did answer all I asked and will continue on. Yes, I am lovely, I am worth it and I am ready — for whatever that would come and will be. I will stand my ground putting my hope and trust in the Lord who has set me free and is truth Himself.